Monday, February 26, 2018

weekly theme :: CHOICES



Author: Sifu Matthew Carver




Gong Fu or Kung Fu (功夫) literally means "energy/hard work, time/patience." It is commonly misunderstood to mean a particular style of martial art, but it actually refers to anything that takes a large amount of time, patience, and energy to accomplish. For example, if someone is learning to play the piano that is their kung fu because it will require a lot of time and energy to become proficient in that art. The concept of Kung Fu applies to the martial arts as well, but in the west, we tend to assume it is exclusively a martial arts term or a particular style of martial arts and it is not.



Make your way. 

Please notice how I did not say discover your way or find your way or seek your way. I said: make your way. Make it. Create it. This world seems to take equal parts pleasure in creating and destroying. For something new to emerge, something else needs to evaporate. Appearing and disappearing. So to create this new path in which you will travel with contentment and satisfaction you must first dismantle your old way of living. Only makes sense. We can't walk two paths at the same time. Time, as most of us perceive it, is moving constantly in a singular direction. Living a life walking two different paths would necessitate 2 of you. Psychologically this happens in the form of a mental split. The psyche either stands at the crossroads unwilling to choose a course or it desires to choose both courses at the same time. Both choices usher in a litany of material impossibilities, however, from a thinking perspective, we are literally stuck — Out of synch. This is the important part. Either path is the same. The path makes no difference nor cares to label itself one way or the other. By my choice and my willingness to move forward singularly, and assuredly that my path is mine alone and it is ever evolving and growing grander and richer and satisfying with each step we move forward. Every path is filled with pain and pleasure and ups and downs and there is contentment in all of this when enlightenment strikes you. It seems to favor decisively moving singular targets that walk decisively singular paths.

Blah blah blah. So what does that mean or prove? 

Understanding what was just explained is not enough. Believing it to be true is not enough either. Although it does shorten the process slightly. Practicing as if it were true seems to be the action that gets the wheels turning. In other words, behaving as if it were true. It is empowering to practice as if you could dramatically alter the course of your life with a mere one step in a particular direction. Any direction. You can live any life you can imagine, or at higher levels, I suspect, live an unimaginable life. No need to plan out each step. Just keep moving forward. A Chinese sifu once said that if you are not moving forward, you are moving backward. The idea that you can stand static still and neither move up or down is really a slower version of moving backward. Getting stuck mentally or emotionally in the past whilst your physical body moves uncompromisingly forward in time causes an existential paradox. Do you realize how much mental strain and internal resources it takes to keep you running counter to the flow of the entire universe?

Either you choose one or not choose one. 

Either way, you made a choice. Decisions made by indecision are still, guess what, decisions. Good and bad are only labels we apply to things based on our preferences, agendas and points of interest. The words themselves mean nothing. They are a choice you decide to apply to situations, people, places or things that you believe do you harm or at the very least, not in line with your preference.


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Monday, February 12, 2018

weekly theme :: PREPARATION IN LOVING YOUR FUTURE SELF

future self love preparation


Don’t Let Your Farmer Collect Garbage. It's all in the preparation. 


There is a person you will never meet in the present. 

Though you feel her nearness and you may even catch a whiff here and there of her scent, she and you will never meet eyes. You will always be intimate strangers. There is a person you will never know and yet know so well. In fact, he will be the sum of all your nowness. It’s hard to show kindness and respect when the object of your kindness and respect is your future self. Your future self is like the friendly farmer who harvests all the experiences (seeds) you set into motion in the present. 

Sorry future friendly farmer self. 

There are no apples to harvest because I planted oranges. Or, sorry future farmer self, I planted nothing. All I did was make your farm empty and overgrown with regrets and missed opportunities. Then your future farmer has no time to farm because he has to deal with the garbage you left for him everywhere. Your farmer is now collecting garbage. Are you satisfied?

This week we are going to practice showing love and respect for our future selves. 

By doing small things, itty-bitty routines, and tiny baby step advances, we gain momentum. Momentum that will carry and propel us into the realm of our future selves. Of course when we arrive at our future it will no longer be future it will be now, but this isn’t a sci-fi movie and we don’t have time to goof around. Know this, our future selves will cheer us and write songs about us and look back fondly at the past-you-self that has made all this future awesomeness happen.

Start small.

what would you like to have happen in the future? What small things can I do now to work toward that vision of the future?

Sample Student: Well, Matt, I would like very much to not go to jail when I go home to Shitsville, USA.

Matt: Super idea. Jail is depressing. Have you alerted your PO that you have left the state but are receiving substance treatment and look forward to rehabilitating yourself?

Sample Student: No I have not done that.

Matt: Then your future self is set to only collect garbage.   How does that make you feel?

Sample Student: Poorly

Matt: Yes, your future self also feels poorly. Let me help you call your PO and get things rolling in the right direction.

Sample Student: Sound good.

Connect in the moment.

The ability to connect to the present moment and shape it in a way that makes a future, unknowable version of yourself grateful, is asking a lot. It depends on you loving yourself enough to do something about it. This week we will learn that our future selves are worth it and what to do about it.

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Monday, February 5, 2018

weekly theme :: THE JOURNEY OF A HERO, PART II




BECOME THE HERO IN YOUR OWN STORY


“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. 
I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or 
I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have—life itself.” 
~Walter Anderson


Now that clients have explored and defined what a hero means to them, it is time to become the hero in their own lives.

This week's task is to help clients take the positive characteristics and traits they identified and assist them in strengthening their own internal resources, or more specifically, the hero within.


Call or contact Zen Recovery PathOur community welcomes a fresh start. Recovery will be inspired with Art Projects, Kung Fu Classes, Tai Chi, Music group and Movie with Meaning therapies.

126 E. 16th St., Costa Mesa, CA 92627

(800) 759-1930